I’ll be happy when…

What have you tied your happiness to? How many times have you said to yourself, I’ll be happy when I lose weight? Or I’ll be happy when I can fit into that outfit again? Or I’ll be happy when I’ve paid the house off? Or I’ll be happy when I’m in a relationship? For too many people they have created a state mentally that never allows them to feel happy in the moment, as they are now, and the happiness factors they’ve tied themselves to are mostly external.

Yet life itself is the goal. Each moment. Otherwise, you get to where you believe the goal for you is, and you raise the proverbial bar. You make another goal. And then, you push to get to that one, that goal. And then you make another one, and in the meantime, you keep missing what you call your life. And then you wonder how it all went by so fast and where you were while it was happening. That’s how people get to the end of their lives and suddenly realize they missed the gifts. The small moments. The ordinary moments, on the way to the big goal. This moment, right now, is it. And when you tell yourself – even silently in your own head that you’ll be happy when… what you are also saying is that you aren’t happy now. That you aren’t OK now. That you aren’t enough. And when you do this – when you scratch the itch of your not enoughness – you set yourself up to make choices that go against (or sabotage) the very health, wellness and lifestyle choices that you need to make to get you to where you want to go. See how ironic that is?

It is why the best piece of health advice I can ever give is to encourage people to live life genuinely in touch with how precious it is, how precious they are, and to treat themselves accordingly. From this space, a wonderful state of health and energy can be experienced, and a body shape and size that is healthful for you is therefore inevitable. By Dr Libby Weaver

This is why gratitude has become a daily practice for me. Gratitude brings me back into the here and now. It allows me to live more in the present moment and experience joy and happiness  daily through the little things. Each day I will either say in my mind or write down 3 things I am grateful for and it instantly shifts my mood and my energy to one that feels more lighter, brighter and happier.
We often forget how much of a privileged life we are leading just because we have our basic needs met. So many of us are getting caught up in trying to provide a “better life” for ourselves and our families that we miss what is truly important…. Living and enjoying life right now and feeling blessed for the fact that we are alive!

This is from the book “The top 5 regrets of the dying” by Bronnie Ware and is a great reminder for us all:

Use the energy of the super full moon tomorrow to reflect on what you have been tying your happiness to. If you are guilty of saying to yourself “I’ll be happy when….” make this your opportunity to become aware of what you are tying your happiness to and decide that it’s time to let go of focusing on being happy one day and choose happiness now instead.

Big hugs
Peta xx